Self Love v/s Selfishness

Are you confused?
Are you thinking the same what I am thinking?
Is there any difference between this two?
Am I insane?
I hope I make some sense at the end….

One always says that one should love oneself. But does loving oneself is different from being selfish. I think yes; it is! Self love when exceeds its limit becomes selfishness. As we say there is very thin line between confidence and overconfidence, in the same way I would say “there is very thin line between self love and being selfish”.

One should always love oneself. If one is not doing it then that means we are committing a crime. Self love is the best love. If you love yourself than you would love others and allow others to love you.

For example: Suppose you are ill and you are not ready to take care of yourself by just ignoring it or cursing the situation that made you sick. In that case others will try to help you and try to arrange a doctor/medicine for you but its you who need to take the initiative to accept the same. In any case, it will be you who will win or lose by taking proper care.

Suppose you are stubborn and not ready to listen to others, than at one point of time others will think, it’s no use to tell you. Finally other person will stop helping you and you may again point at that person saying that he/she is not helping, not taking care for you. But I would say its you who have taken this step of not loving yourself and compromising on situation by cursing it. Instead take remedial step and move ahead, finally precaution is better than cure. Who knows your irresponsibility at this point of time might lead to big problem in future which might affect you and others associated with you. At that point of time you and your loved ones would be in such situation that even after realizing the mistake won’t be able to help out much on this.

Selfishness on the other hand is very different from self love. Self love is a positive attribute whereas being selfish is negative. Being selfish means harming others from beginning. It may lead to happy moments for oneself initially but in long run it will surely harm and leave one being isolated.

I think Self love is the best love. Suppose at one instant if we forget it, than one should think “Will this act of mine will make my parents happy” and the answer would give you the way to love yourself. If you won’t like to live for yourself than I would suggest live for parents; as the dreams they have seen can be fulfilled only by you and none other.

I donno does I made any sense with this but I may ask you (readers) few questions...

What do you think..
Is self-love important or no?
Is self love different from being selfish?
Can Self love lead to being selfish?

!! Does thinking have any language !!

It was 10.00 Pm and everone was sitting at ColdPlace … It’s a Juice Parlour. As we were sipping our drinks discussion began.

What say.. Kamlesh Said.

Nalin said.. Its interesting but according to me you are right, We think in our mother tongue.

James, what do you think on this…. Kamlesh asked! I am unable to understand your views.

Manisha confused, what to say …was about to give her views….. Kamlesh interrupted “See James, Its simple One speak and hear in the language that we use; but we understand the same after converting it into our mother tongue language”.

See, When ever I say something before that I need to tell the same to my mind. This process is done in my local language.. for me its Hindi…. Nalin said.

For Manisha it might be Oriyya… Manisha nodded on being asked.

For me its Gujarati…Kamlesh Said.

In the same way, James it might be Spanish for you…. James silent….

James… You all are smart people. On this Manisha speaks.. Hey James – that’s not correct. We are in India and we know Indian Languages, but you from Brazil and you learned even few words in gujarati. So you are smart.. Everyone nodded their head.

James… No No… I know only 2 Languages… Spanish and English… Whereas you all know minimum 2+1 language. i.e English, Hindi and Some local language. On this Kamlesh intervened “ That’s because of our Eduation System”. It says that we should know Mother Tongue, English and one more language of the state in which we are pursuing our primary education.

Manisha.. ok lets come back to topic. Nalin nodded… So James what do you think are we correct. According to me, before we speak we think the same in one language convert it and than speak it to someone into the language which he/she understands.

Hmmm!!! That’s what I heard from everyone except James. Ohh.. my heart was relaxed as I felt little important hearing that I am somewhat correct and this boosted my confidence.

But James is James… it tough to make foreigner agree soon on something. James.. I think thinking doesn’t have any language. Does it make any sense…? I told to myself.

Hearing James; Manisha and Kamlesh nodded. Poor me... Dint understood what shall I do.. thought to keep mum with no expressions.

Finally James and Kamlesh spoke simultaneously… That’s interesting. Continuing the same Kamlesh took a lead… Its an interesting topic to study. Over this Nalin continued.. I think one can do a research on this “Does thinking have any language”.. Everyone smiled… Manisha took a lead.. Yes Nalin.. You can do it…

Of this the drinks got over and it was 11pm.. So unanimously everyone got up and depart for room.